M.A.P Lesson 5

Seek first to understand, then to be understood.

“Understanding is a two-way street.”

~Eleanor Roosevelt

Habit #5  Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teens from the Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teens   -    Sean Covey

Lesson Objectives

1.      Students will gain an understanding of first themselves and then the other students.

2.      Students will continue to build a relationship with each other.

3.      Students will seek to be understood in a familiar and fun game.

4.      Students will work on Career Portfolios.

Part I                SGA discussion

1.  Valentines dance
   1. Questions?
   2. Snow Ball tickets can be transferred to Valentines Day Dance
      1. Time: February 13, 2004.  8:00 pm – 11:00 pm
      2. Tickets on sale the week of the 2^nd and the week of the 9^th
      3. $5 for single, $10 for couple

Part II              Introduce lesson

1.  Seek first to understand then to be understood – understand others so that they can understand you!!!!!

Part III                          Charades

1.   Draw cards.

2. Number 1 goes first, 2 second, etc.
3. Act out whatever is on the card.
4. Optional - The person acting out and the person who guesses get candy.

Part IV                        Personality Quiz

1. Have everyone take out a pen or pencil and a piece of paper.
2. Read the following to your group:

A Walk in the Woods

A Personality Quiz.  As soon as you read a question, write the answer right away. Listen to the following questions, imagining the scenes in your mind, and write down the FIRST thing that you visualize. Do NOT think about the questions excessively.

Ready?

1. You are walking in the woods. Who are you walking with?

2. You are walking in the woods. You see an animal. What kind of animal is it?

3. What interaction takes place between you and the animal?

4. You walk deeper in the woods. You enter a clearing and before you is your Dream House. Describe its size.

5. Is your dream house surrounded by a fence?

6. You enter the house. You walk to the dining area and see the dining table. Describe what you see on AND around the table.

7. You exit the house through the back door. Lying in the grass is a cup. What material is the cup made of?

8. What do you do with the cup?

9. You walk to the edge of the property, where you find yourself standing at the edge of a body of water. What type of body of water is is it?

10. How will you cross the water?

Results:

This has been a relational psychology test. The answers given to the questions have been shown to have a relevance to values and ideals that we hold in our personal lives. The analysis follows:

1. The person who you are walking with is the most important person in your life.

2. The size of the animal is representative of your perception of the size of your problems.

3. The severity of the interaction you have with the animal is representative of how you deal with your problems. (passive/aggressive)

4. The size of your dream house is representative of the size of your ambition to resolve your problems.

5. No fence is indicative of an open personality. People are welcome at all times. The presence of a fence indicates a closed personality. You'd prefer people not to drop by unannounced.

6. If your answer did not include food, people, or flowers, then you are generally unhappy.

7. The durability of the material with which the cup is made of is representative of the perceived durability of your relationship with the person named in number 1. For example, Styrofoam, plastic, and paper are all disposable, Styrofoam, paper and glass are not durable, and metal and plastic are durable.

8. Your disposition of the cup is representative of your attitude towards the person in number 1.

9. The size of the body of water is representative of the size of your desire for love.

10. How wet you get in crossing the water is indicative of the relative importance of your love life.

·        Have your group discuss their answers.  Try to get some people to volunteer their answers.  Ask if they found out anything new about themselves or another person in the group.

Part V                  Partners

1. Student will get into partners based on their numbers.
2. Have them find out 5 things about each other (ex. Favorite ice cream, where they want to live/what they want to do when they grow up, favorite tree, favorite game, etc.)
3. Present to the group.

Part VI                 Group discussion

1. Discuss whether their perspective changed about anyone.
2. Do you understand anyone better?
3. Talk about the lesson.  What did they like/dislike?

Part VII                Career Portfolios

Remember to try to get everyone involved!  Have a great lesson!